Tuesday, April 27, 2010

10 Reasons Why I Love Matt & Dan

1. Matt & Dan, who blog at Matt & Dan’s Sexual Adventures, celebrate gay sexuality in all its glory. In the gay blogging community, they stand out as incredibly compelling champions of bareback sex. Their narratives of their “sexual adventures” are hot, nasty, entertaining and often thrilling.

2. They’re fearless. Check out that BAREBACK PRIDE: FUCKING WITHOUT FEAR graphic on their site. Right on! In an age in which Condom Nazis continue to spread hysteria and disinformation about condomless sex, Matt & Dan celebrate the purity and freedom of gay sex as nature intended.

3. They’re passionate. If you read Matt & Dan regularly, you know how much passion they put into seeking out and engaging in truly great sex. They don’t compromise; they don’t engage in half-hearted fucking. Even their most anonymous encounters can come off as transcendent and life-affirming. You get the sense that these guys are able to truly make love with guys they’ve just met. They are able to fully commit to the present, and fully commit to their sexual partners.

4. They’re honest with themselves. Deep down, we all know that humans are animals. And yet so many of us are brainwashed into thinking that we should live up to impossible “standards” that deny our intrinsic animal instincts. Like, thinking that we should aspire to having a monogamous relationship (as if that’s some kind of pinnacle). Or that we should always “wrap it up.” Guess what? Over time, the vast majority of men — gay and straight — fail to live up to those “standards.” Why? Because they are, simply, unnatural. They are against nature. Matt & Dan have moved on completely from tired old presumptions and expectations. They’ve embraced who they really are.

5. They’re honest about the risks. As it says right on their homepage: “Matt’s more of a bottom; Dan’s more of a top. But we have one special thing in common: we love it bare. (And we get turned on by the risks...)” You may or may not agree with the extent to which they fetishize poz cum and poz-cock-in-neg-hole barebacking, but at least they’re not in denial about the way that barebacking can change your life. They’ve embraced the risks. In a supposedly enlightened gay community that still often stigmatizes openly HIV-positive men, Matt & Dan are champions of inclusiveness and acceptance.

6. They’re prolific. I recently took a break from blogging for lots of reasons, including that I was burned out. I felt bad about it, but I had to put myself first. Matt & Dan, in contrast, rarely seem to take breaks, or at least extended breaks. You can tell that they’re committed to being there for us, their devoted readers. They’re doing it for themselves, but they’re also doing it for us.

7. They’re generous. Blogging as much as Matt & Dan do is a lot of work. I guess part of the appeal for them must be that they’re exhibitionists — part of their reward must be that they get off on us getting off on them — but you can’t take away from these guys that, over the years, they’ve put a huge amount of effort into sharing their experiences with us. They’ve probably written the equivalent of a book by now. Their blog is a gift to the gay community, and it’s free to readers all over the world. Personally, I’m incredibly appreciative. I’m sure thousands of other guys are too.

8. They’re joyful. When Matt & Dan have great sex and share it with their readers, they’re sharing their joy at living life to its fullest.

9. They’re HOT. Lots of bareback bloggers write hot posts, but Matt & Dan have also graced us with pictures and videos of their physical hotness. I don’t think I’ve seen a hotter amateur (or “professional,” for that matter) porn scene so far this year than “Breeding Matt, the video!” When Matt, on his hands and knees, offers his hole up to Dan and keeps whispering, “Please, please, please” and “Please breed me,” you know how much he needs it. And you can tell how much Dan needs to breed his boy’s hole. Their chemistry is scorching.

10. They’re inspirational. What comes through in Matt & Dan’s blog posts is not only their passion for honest, uninhibited sex, but a sense of responsibility to the gay community. So many gays have been bombarded with sex-negative messages, and indoctrinated with the idea that gay men are not entitled to ever enjoy the true, complete experience that fucking without a condom allows. The “Use a Condom Every Time” crowd seems to think that gay men should never be allowed real intimacy — a way of looking at gay sexuality that is disgusting, cowardly, and speaks of self-loathing left over from last century. I bet hundreds, if not thousands, of guys have learned from Matt & Dan’s example and have decided to allow themselves truly fulfilling sex lives. That’s really beautiful when you think about it.

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Condoms Are For Ugly Folks!

Check out the post
“Condoms Are For Ugly Folks!” at a blog called The Frisky. It’s about a new ad campaign from OLLA, a Brazilian maker of condoms. The whole (humorous) point of the campaign seems to be that ugly heteros should use condoms so that they don’t make ugly babies. So I guess that means that hot homos should definitely not use condoms.